Growing up you experienced deaths of goldfish, hamsters, dogs, and cats.  This was hard on you and you have vivid memories of their “burials” and “funerals” as well as the sadness associated with their deaths.  You knew friends who experienced deaths of their grandparents and even their parents and your heart ached for them. However, until recently, you have not experienced the death of a family member or close friend.  You wonder “How do I deal with this loss?”  “What are the normal ways to act and feel?”  “Why am I feeling this way?”  These questions are on your mind and you have not gotten answers from people around you.  Many have said to you things like “They are in a better place”, “You will get over it with time”, and “It was meant to be”.  However, you are tired of hearing these things from people who may be well meaning but seemingly clueless about how you are feeling and or what you need from them.  You are having a hard time sleeping and working.  You are self medicating with shopping, eating your favorite sweets, or sleeping too much.  You are trying to get to some level of “normalcy” again but don’t know where to begin.  It has been a few months since the death of your loved one, and you still feel stuck.  So many people are saying different things to you about how to think, feel, and act.  You feel so confused.   

Loss is not solely related to death.  You may be feelings sadness, confusion, frustration, and anger related to other situations such as loss of a job, end of a relationship, or the diagnosis of an illness.  You just want some answers about how to feel better and get back to your “old self” again.   You read online about the benefits of therapy and decide to give it a try.

 You meet with your therapist.  This is the first time you have ever seen a therapist and you are anxious but optimistic!  You aren’t being judged and you are given hope that things can and will change for the better.  As you meet with your therapist weekly, you begin to notice improvements.  You are now able to process your mixed thoughts and feelings such as missing your loved one, yet also being very angry with them for the way that they always treated you poorly around others.  You never knew that you could both love and not like characteristics about someone at the same time.  You are learning that it is ok to be sad and to grieve whatever way you want and need to.  You are learning ways to adjust to the loss such as coming up with new traditions for holidays and ways to honor your loved one. You feel a bit happier and even on your sad days, you are remembering the good times and memories you have of your loved ones.  People have commented on your changes such as you smiling more.  You have learned that it is ok to be happy again despite your loved one no longer being alive.    You are learning coping skills such as writing letters to your loved one.  You find yourself looking forward to therapy for it is a safe place to talk and learn more about how to handle losses in life. 

If this sounds like you, know that you have come to the right place!   We are here to help you through this tough time.  Our therapists will provide you with support, encouragement, and acceptance.  We utilize many approaches and techniques including processing your thoughts and feelings, worksheets, handouts, homework, art, music, and mindfulness. 

Rebecca has more than 12 years experience providing therapy.  She has advanced training in CBT which focuses on identifying thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes and how they relate to actions and behaviors and once this is done, changes in behaviors can be made.  For example, you think “I can’t live without my mom” which leads to feelings of sadness which then results in isolating and not having any energy to do things.  However, with practice, you reframe it and begin believing that you have learned a lot from your mom and have many memories of her which leads to feelings of happiness which then results in having energy and interest in creating a scholarship in honor of your mom.   Rebecca has much professional and personal experience helping people who are grieving and this is one of her specialities.  She has a very accepting and compassionate personality that encourages growth, self care, and empowerment.  She has morning through evening appointments available.  You can read more about Rebecca in her bio and her recent blogs, including ones on grieving.  She also offers workshops on helping those who are grieving.

Dominic has more than 7 years experience providing therapy in a variety of settings. His training is in marriage and family counseling, and his specialties are family dynamics and family therapy.  He has evening and Saturday hours available.  You can read more about Dominic in his bio and his recent blogs

If you want to learn ways to regain happiness and enjoy life again after a loss, please contact us now!   You can do so by filling out our Request Appointment form on our website or call 717-723-8040 extension 100 to schedule with our Client Coordinator, Christine. Additionally, you can view the insurances we participate with, and you can read more on self paying for therapy.

We are here to support you in addressing the loss you’ve experienced.

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